NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. It characterizes the management of thoughts and feeling provoked through language, both spoken and body language. Self help practitioners such as Paul McKenna, author of Change Your Life in Seven Days, use NLP because of it’s powerful influence on negative habits.

Try this. With someone in the same room or where you can watch them inconspicuously, text them this message.

Scratch off lottery tickets are Your favorite. Who Knows.

Now make sure you capitalize the words scratch, your and knows. They have to stand out just a little bit. What you’ve done is embedded the command, scratch your nose, to your friend. Knows and nose are phonetically ambiguous, so don’t worry about that. Did your friend scratch their nose?

Studying the thoughts and behaviors in response to communication is the core of NLP. Using observation, NLP practitioners determine which communications elicit a desired outcome and which ones don’t. From there, they tailor new communication options for a patient. Programs to stop smoking and those to help people lose weight employ NLP to identify the external triggers that keep people in bad habits.

Many times when you communicate, you are managing to send multiple messages through your body language, eye movement, tone of voice, pace of speech and even your speed of breath. What if, consciously, you could choreograph these paths of communication efficiently? Right now, you probably use a shotgun approach with very few filters and learned negative body communication.

Can you tell if a salesperson is desperate? Most likely, and that doesn’t make you feel comfortable buying from them. What about your partner? Even when they are telling you everything is all right, you can see their shoulders tense up and you know things aren’t right. What about the shy kid at school? Does the teacher think he’s ambivalent to the lessons since he afraid to participate?

Nobody gets what they want with miscommunication. Many of us have developed stereotypes that are destructive such as taking things personally when someone declines our offer, or at best, unproductive like assuming your request will be declined before you’ve had the chance to ask.

NLP has to do with communication intent. It’s a set of descriptions of what works and what doesn’t. Now every individual has a different set that works for them, so there is no one set that everyone can refer to. But, with NLP, you can heighten you awareness of yourself and communication habits by reading the shifts in behavior in others. How others respond provide the feedback of the way you communicate. Can you imagine, one, figuring out how to the brain responds to language tactics and then, two, skillfully using language (like Cesar Millan with dogs) to work with clients, your parents, your partner and the kids?

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